Everyone in the group chat got an invite, except you?

Social Lesson 1

Has everyone in your friendship circle ever been invited to a birthday, wedding, or any event and you weren't and you couldn't stop thinking why?

You ask yourself;

What did I do wrong?

Was it something I said?

Was it something I did?

Then you start asking:

Am I overthinking this?

I used to think I was an overthinker (I still think I am) but I recently read a book that changed my view.

It’s called Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman.

Here’s what I learned.

1. You’re not crazy. You’re human.

Researchers found that when we’re not actively doing something—like taking a test or working—our brains switch to “default mode.”

And guess what that default is?

Thinking about people.

Relationships.

Our place in the world.

So when you’re lying in bed at 2 a.m. thinking,

“Why was I left out?”

You’re not overthinking.

You’re just being human.

2. Your brain is wired for connection

We’re social beings.

That’s why social media exploded.

That’s why you check your phone to see what your friends are up to.

That’s why you care about what others think of you.

It’s not a flaw.

It’s biology.

3. It will pass

Feelings like this come and go.

Don’t binge-watch 50 “how to stop overthinking” videos.

You’re not broken.

You’re just normal.

Let the moment pass.

Tomorrow your brain will find something else to care about.

You can catch the video here: Youtube Video

About Me:

I’m Sylvie.

I’m a teacher and a PhD holder.

I lost my job recently, and I realized school didn’t prepare me for real life.

Now I’m learning what I wish school had taught me:

Health. Wealth. Relationships. AI.

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